Well said! I was YESing and YESing the points you made. You put into words some of the angst I have been feeling about discussing race in a white-dominant culture that wants to look and act black while ignoring or kumbayaying the pains and difficulties of being black. This faux blackness that believes racism is behind us while refusing to be on par with people who are divinely created to be black. My blackness requires your whiteness to step aside, otherwise I become some kind of confused gray creature, which may serve your purposes but certainly not mine. I'm wonderfully black. I love the beauty, and I live the (unnecessary) pain, of my ebony skin. I'm flattered by the imitation, but you respect me best when you be your best white self and respect and honor other people and their boundaries.
We white folks forget that we are a collective. We try to always be an individual as cultivated by the white supremacist delusional systems we are living in.
Here here for boundaries!
I'm new to your Substack and delighted and honored to be here.
Thank you for sharing your passion and with with the world.
Just caught up on this via your "we've been dating for a year!" newsletter. Reminds me of my deep discomfort at the whole Smith/Rock Slap Event, particularly as an old white woman. I felt that night, and still do, that the best thing I can do is shut up and listen. Nobody needs to know/hear what I think about it, there's enough social exhaust (still!) filling the atmosphere about it. It was another learning opportunity for me. Still learning. So thank you.
Thank you for the reminder that it’s okay to protect my peace!
Well said! I was YESing and YESing the points you made. You put into words some of the angst I have been feeling about discussing race in a white-dominant culture that wants to look and act black while ignoring or kumbayaying the pains and difficulties of being black. This faux blackness that believes racism is behind us while refusing to be on par with people who are divinely created to be black. My blackness requires your whiteness to step aside, otherwise I become some kind of confused gray creature, which may serve your purposes but certainly not mine. I'm wonderfully black. I love the beauty, and I live the (unnecessary) pain, of my ebony skin. I'm flattered by the imitation, but you respect me best when you be your best white self and respect and honor other people and their boundaries.
As usual, you always seem to have the words. Thank you
Appreciate this and you. Working on the assignment.
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Standing ovation.
Amen! 🙌🏾
"You really do view us, in our anti-racist work and in our very existence, as “the help.”
OOF!
All can I say is how on point this was. A year later and just so thoughtfully relevant.
Thank you!
We white folks forget that we are a collective. We try to always be an individual as cultivated by the white supremacist delusional systems we are living in.
Here here for boundaries!
I'm new to your Substack and delighted and honored to be here.
Thank you for sharing your passion and with with the world.
Not all heroes wear capes. Sometimes they rock head wraps. So much in this to think on. Full respect due! Thank you.
Just caught up on this via your "we've been dating for a year!" newsletter. Reminds me of my deep discomfort at the whole Smith/Rock Slap Event, particularly as an old white woman. I felt that night, and still do, that the best thing I can do is shut up and listen. Nobody needs to know/hear what I think about it, there's enough social exhaust (still!) filling the atmosphere about it. It was another learning opportunity for me. Still learning. So thank you.
I agree with all this.
I needed that sis. Thank you.
Well said. I listened and I heard.