I laughed out loud so many times reading this! It’s entirely possible to have fun at your own wedding, and with this approach to it, you will. My wedding is still on my Top 3 Most Fun Parties Ever Attended list 28 years later. It was worth the agonizing over the guest list and all the other stressful details. Wishing you a wedding that is as joyous for you as mine was for me, and a marriage that is as strong as the one Frank and I had.
All of that is true, SO true. Enjoy your wedding, despite the wedding industrial complex and all of the crap that comes along with it. Congratulations, Ijeoma!
My husband and I got married in October last year, second wedding for both of us, and we’d moved to a new state last year. So we had six people come, mostly using COVID as an excuse not to invite a bunch of people. My husband is a big introvert, and according to some astrology thing I’m a hermit! So it was perfect, not agonizing over who to invite. I imagine your vows will be breathtakingly beautiful. Mazeltov Darling. So happy for you both. 💞
Congratulations!!! May you have the time of your life, and soak up a wonderful day of everyone you love making it *all* about the two of you. And for the love of g*d, get your cake at Costco!! 💕
Not just the trampoline--also the demolition derby car, LOL.
I will reiterate: you and Gabriel being in love and getting married is one of the things that is right with this world....makes it easier to deal with how challenging things are these days.
Two amazing human beings that I've never even met, yet who make such a difference in my life.
I am super excited for you both. Less than a month away, WOW.
Despite having been single since the mid-90s and having had several years of therapy, I STILL say “funeral” when I mean to say “wedding,” even when I’m really happy for the other people involved. Issues much?
Wishing you all the best on your fabulous, rockin’ party.
Just remember, DSTSS (don’t sweat the small shit). Congratulations and cheers!
A lot of wedding expectations felt off to me too, getting walked down the aisle, taking your husband's name... I found a dress on ebay (that ended up looking great) and we just had a big party at a state park. I'm so happy for you and am looking forward to seeing how everything turns out!
Ah, time goes by. We got married in Holland (MY husband is Dutch.) At that time, in 1978, some couples would hop on their bikes to city hall on Thursday, the day that marriages were cheap.
Our reception was a gift from two friends who gave great parties. Flowers were done by the wife of my fiancé's good friend. I sewed my own gown (9 meter circumference of the skirt...walking was heaven!) Makeup by a friend. Photos by two friends of my fiancé. All of this organized by fiancé who just loves to organize!
It was great fun, and we didn't have much money!!!
Thanks for this one! 😬 the day we got married was an incredible ice storm--the catering hall called my mom the morning of our wedding and said “you’re canceling, right?”
The inclement weather kept the guest list down to the folks that really wanted to be there, and not the crazy uncle that rsvp’d for 17
I’m so happy you both get to make this day your own--I love the trampoline :D and I am completely going to start using “squicky” whenever possible 🥰
Congratulations! I really appreciate what you said about not wanting to be a "wife." My partner of almost 20 years proposed to me a few months ago, but I'm still hung up on "being a wife." I'm pansexual too, so I hate the heteronormativity an opposite-gender wedding comes with. I'll have to think about what kinds of queerness I could add. It's nice to hear I'm not alone.
Congratulations and have a fabulous time! My husband and I got married in August 2016 - our venue was his parents' second home (a gorgeous spot on a river in southwestern Virginia). Since they were providing the location, we felt like we couldn't say no to anyone they wanted to invite - so most of our guests ended up being their friends and family. It was the first time I met most of his family, so I felt so much pressure to have things go well and make a good impression. We had about 50 guests (invited 100); I would have been happy with 10. But it was a beautiful day and I have so many good memories - the photos were worth every penny we spent on them.
The word "wife" has always made me feel squicky as well. There's nothing wrong with it per se, but to me, it connotes ownership and subservience, even if that's not what the literal definition is. I use "spouse," "mate," or "partner," whenever possible. So I feel you on that one, and it's nice to know there are others out there trying to lean away from so many gendered terms. Congratulations and have a fabulous wedding day!
I laughed out loud so many times reading this! It’s entirely possible to have fun at your own wedding, and with this approach to it, you will. My wedding is still on my Top 3 Most Fun Parties Ever Attended list 28 years later. It was worth the agonizing over the guest list and all the other stressful details. Wishing you a wedding that is as joyous for you as mine was for me, and a marriage that is as strong as the one Frank and I had.
All of that is true, SO true. Enjoy your wedding, despite the wedding industrial complex and all of the crap that comes along with it. Congratulations, Ijeoma!
My husband and I got married in October last year, second wedding for both of us, and we’d moved to a new state last year. So we had six people come, mostly using COVID as an excuse not to invite a bunch of people. My husband is a big introvert, and according to some astrology thing I’m a hermit! So it was perfect, not agonizing over who to invite. I imagine your vows will be breathtakingly beautiful. Mazeltov Darling. So happy for you both. 💞
So true. That one person who had no intention of attending and you didn't invite will be offended for life!
Congratulations!!! May you have the time of your life, and soak up a wonderful day of everyone you love making it *all* about the two of you. And for the love of g*d, get your cake at Costco!! 💕
This was SO fun to read!
😂
Not just the trampoline--also the demolition derby car, LOL.
I will reiterate: you and Gabriel being in love and getting married is one of the things that is right with this world....makes it easier to deal with how challenging things are these days.
Two amazing human beings that I've never even met, yet who make such a difference in my life.
I am super excited for you both. Less than a month away, WOW.
Congratulations and have a blast!
💙💐
Despite having been single since the mid-90s and having had several years of therapy, I STILL say “funeral” when I mean to say “wedding,” even when I’m really happy for the other people involved. Issues much?
Wishing you all the best on your fabulous, rockin’ party.
Just remember, DSTSS (don’t sweat the small shit). Congratulations and cheers!
Congratulations!
A lot of wedding expectations felt off to me too, getting walked down the aisle, taking your husband's name... I found a dress on ebay (that ended up looking great) and we just had a big party at a state park. I'm so happy for you and am looking forward to seeing how everything turns out!
Ah, time goes by. We got married in Holland (MY husband is Dutch.) At that time, in 1978, some couples would hop on their bikes to city hall on Thursday, the day that marriages were cheap.
Our reception was a gift from two friends who gave great parties. Flowers were done by the wife of my fiancé's good friend. I sewed my own gown (9 meter circumference of the skirt...walking was heaven!) Makeup by a friend. Photos by two friends of my fiancé. All of this organized by fiancé who just loves to organize!
It was great fun, and we didn't have much money!!!
Thanks for this one! 😬 the day we got married was an incredible ice storm--the catering hall called my mom the morning of our wedding and said “you’re canceling, right?”
The inclement weather kept the guest list down to the folks that really wanted to be there, and not the crazy uncle that rsvp’d for 17
I’m so happy you both get to make this day your own--I love the trampoline :D and I am completely going to start using “squicky” whenever possible 🥰
Congratulations! I really appreciate what you said about not wanting to be a "wife." My partner of almost 20 years proposed to me a few months ago, but I'm still hung up on "being a wife." I'm pansexual too, so I hate the heteronormativity an opposite-gender wedding comes with. I'll have to think about what kinds of queerness I could add. It's nice to hear I'm not alone.
Congratulations and have a fabulous time! My husband and I got married in August 2016 - our venue was his parents' second home (a gorgeous spot on a river in southwestern Virginia). Since they were providing the location, we felt like we couldn't say no to anyone they wanted to invite - so most of our guests ended up being their friends and family. It was the first time I met most of his family, so I felt so much pressure to have things go well and make a good impression. We had about 50 guests (invited 100); I would have been happy with 10. But it was a beautiful day and I have so many good memories - the photos were worth every penny we spent on them.
The word "wife" has always made me feel squicky as well. There's nothing wrong with it per se, but to me, it connotes ownership and subservience, even if that's not what the literal definition is. I use "spouse," "mate," or "partner," whenever possible. So I feel you on that one, and it's nice to know there are others out there trying to lean away from so many gendered terms. Congratulations and have a fabulous wedding day!
Amen 🙏