Ok, until my mom is home and the dust from this entire traumatic health crisis has settled, any posts here are going to be just casual updates - my brain is mush y’all! So here is a glimpse into some of the stuff that went down this week.
Mom Update:
Mom is doing so much better! We went from not knowing if she’d make it through the night last Wednesday, to having to drive to the hospital to bring her cough drops because she doesn’t like the flavor of the ones that the hospital gave her. She was moved out of the ICU a few days ago and it looks like she might come home this week! She’s still definitely on the road to recovery, but I’ve never been so happy to have my mom call me and complain about random shit in my entire life (lol, today she found out that I am the reason why she had to have almond milk with her cereal because I informed the doctor that she was lactose intolerant after she started having some digestive issues. She is NOT happy).
So many of you sent such kind and loving messages about my mom, and I really appreciate it. I’ve been so lucky in the support I’ve received and my mom is so beloved and I am forever grateful for the ways in which so many people reached out to help get my mom the best care possible, and supported our family as we navigated a medical crisis in the middle of a pandemic. My business manager, Ebony, immediately cleared my calendar to be able to focus on my mom and has been holding it down in my email box every day. My cousin Heather was especially amazing. She’s an ER nurse and every day she went through all of my mom’s numbers with me and helped me make sense of it all, along with providing me with crucial information about optimal care strategies that were so important to helping her begin to recover. I really don’t know what condition my mom would be in today if it weren’t for her.
My Seester Is Here!
My sister flew home pretty much as soon as I called her about mom. She moved to Baltimore about two years ago and we’ve really missed her. I tend to close down around myself in times of crisis, so I’m really glad that my sister is here. She’s really injected some fun and levity into this true nightmare of a week and it means so much to be around someone who loves your mom as much as you do and also loves you a bunch as well. She also let me paint her nails.
I Cut My Hair:
After all the nails were done there was really only one thing I could do to pass the time: cut my hair. I woke up Monday morning and chose violence. Hair violence.
I mean, I absolutely love it. It looks great. I did a great job. My partner helped me get the back. When I posted a picture on the internets, someone commented that they don’t recommend that people cut their hair in times of crisis. Um - WRONG. I totally recommend it. If you are going through a crisis and cutting off your hair gives you even an hour of relief, DO IT. Hair grows back. And if you really fuck it up, you can go to a salon later and buy a wig. I’m just saying: you can come out of a crisis with far worse things than lopsided bangs.
I Almost Died Laughing
Ok, so some of you might think such hyperbole is in bad taste considering everything that I just said we’ve been through, but I DON’T CARE. So, this morning I was wearing an “Abolition is Creative” sweatshirt by For Everyone Co and my sister saw it and mentioned that she had the same hoodie in a different color. Later, as I was taking my clothes off to take a shower I looked down at my sweatshirt and remembered what my sister said. My partner was sitting on our bed about two feet away from me, looking at his phone, and I said, “Oh, Jacque has this same shirt!” He looked at me so confused and a little horrified, and I realized that I had taken the shirt off before he had looked up so it looked like the shirt I was talking about was just my boobs and I was trying to give my partner some sort of visual of my sister’s boobs for some reason.
Anyways, once I figured out why he was staring at me like that I laughed so hard that my freaking back hurt.
“I can’t believe you just told all of your newsletter subscribers this story.” - Gabriel, probably right now.
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It's so great to hear your Mom is doing better and will be home soon! That has to be one e best feelings. Bonus points for getting to share it with your sister! ❤️
I'm so glad your mom is doing better. I'm sure it was so scary and traumatic to experience. Take care of yourself and each other❤️
But ohmygosh I'm laughing so hard at that last part 🤣🤣🤣